Everybody Loves a Girl in a Skirt
Posted on 10 September 2008 by Pras Geng
To a guy there is something quite undeniable about a woman who shows flesh, whether you like to admit it or not. While most men would prefer to date or marry a woman who dresses somewhat modestly, us single blokes could possibly not get enough of looking at a girl who dresses like she is auditioning for a music video. Let’s grab the bull by its horns: Some of us, in fact most of us narrow minded simpletons will label the girl a ‘slut’ or ‘tart’ simply because it is easier to discount someone than to give them credit for being confident in their appearance. But why does it have to be like this?
InsideDesi’s Kia Abdullah and Halima Khatun have both discussed this topic at length, but I feel it is time for a guy to give his point of view on the etiquette of flesh flashing. I am not even going to go into the whole debate about whether it is right or wrong for a woman, let alone an Asian woman, to dress less to impress. I personally feel everyone should dress however they want to.
The main factor in my opinion is taste. If the girl can carry a little bit of sex appeal with ease, then I do not see why it should be a big deal. Being out and about with the lads, we do see a fair variety of Asian girls showing skin, especially in the summer. It inevitably sparks a whole array of discussions from “She is quite fit…” to “Bloody hell, she might as well flop them out!” What I noticed is that the girls who dress even somewhat risqué are more likely to attract attention, whether they intend to or not. The ones that dress modestly may or may not get attention depending on how they project themselves.
People have varied threshold on these kinds of things, boys and girls alike. Some guys simply cannot handle seeing a girl in a backless dress whereas others can appreciate the provocative edge.
In the last month, I met two girls when I was out clubbing. Both were very attractive. The first one was dressed in very revealing attire; she was wearing high heels and a short, low cut dress, which displayed a rather distracting cleavage and exposed her back. Needless to say, she looked good in it and appeared confident. I obviously noticed her more than anyone else simply for what she was wearing and how she carried herself. Turns out she is in her late 20’s and working for a law firm in the Docklands. We talked about films, Cormac McCarthy winning a Pulitzer and Italian delis in the West End. Overall I got a very decent impression of her.
The second girl I saw at a different bar. She was wearing jeans, flats and a sleeveless turtle neck top, which was revealing very little except for that visible through a see through pattern. If anything, I found her to be very conservative looking. She was in her mid-twenties and our conversation was a little flirty. She said a couple of vulgar things in a childishly innocent fashion. I was a little stunned but got used to it. I figured it was simply her way of being friendly.
Of the two girls, I would have never expected the second one to be so forward and, for the lack of a better word, classless.
So in my personal opinion, it really does not matter how revealing a girl dresses, as it could all be turned around for the better or worse with a mismatching personality. It obviously also depends on how she behaves and how comfortable she is with herself.
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September 10th, 2008 at 1:36 pm
a worthless read
September 10th, 2008 at 1:49 pm
on the contrary. It highlights the stark hypocrisy of people in general (more notably guys). On one hand we are more than ready to call a girl loose/slut etc., but on the other hand we actually find it rather pleasant when a girl shows some skin.
Is it double standards to girls in out immediate cycle from those on the outside?
September 10th, 2008 at 2:40 pm
people will not change, they will keep on judging a book by its cover.
September 10th, 2008 at 3:23 pm
True say Pras and Asim,
I’m sure Kia and Halima have already highlighted what us girls think of guys like that.
Of course from a religious perpective, anything provocative looking is unnacceptable, however for those of us who aren’t exactly religious, it then falls into the local peer that we happen to be amongst.
I can wear the same outfit in a predominantly non-asian area and be considered modest e.g. my old jeans and jerseys, which may be tighter than they used to be, but the moment I get into a very asian area, I get leared at terribly. I haven’t even started with skirts!
Quite frankly, I don’t think we, as girls should make such efforts to turn guys off, their minds will wonder anyway. I dress the way I feel totally comfortable in and for me, regardless of whether it’s more (or should I say less) than a man can handle. I simply choose to ignore.
September 10th, 2008 at 3:41 pm
why did that pile of arse have to be written down?
September 10th, 2008 at 5:12 pm
great website
September 10th, 2008 at 6:30 pm
@ fugstar; misery guts.
good article Pras
September 10th, 2008 at 10:53 pm
Absolute drivel
September 10th, 2008 at 10:58 pm
End of the day, girls who wear skirts to show of their legs are closer to going to hell. For that reason they are deemed as sluts/devils.
A girl with a personality and one who does not crave attention from guys wont wear revealing clothes. Girls who wear revealing clothes also have brains, their brains tell them ‘I want to look attractive and the consequence is that I will be looked at and I like that feeling hence Im wearing said revealing item.’ They dont think they can achieve the same thing by covering up. Because they are sluts bascailly.
September 11th, 2008 at 12:08 am
I think “I am not a fundamentalist” is clearly a latent slut. Or maybe he is one those guys that perves on these girls who wear revealing clothes and just wants someone else to blame for his filthy thoughts, for which he will be punished in the end for.
September 11th, 2008 at 12:30 am
tu im not a fundamentalist
dat iz soo not tru
“They dont think they can achieve the same thing by covering up. Because they are sluts bascaill”
wearing nyc cloths or wearing sumtink which has
sec apeal doznt mean dey are slutz
tink abou it lyk dis
when ur mother was young ( if ur asian )
she would have worn saree’z ryt on most saree’z
have dat revieling middle bit showin their tummy
doz dat mean ur mother was a slut ?
or wot about when ur sister or a kuzin wore dat
lengha on her wedding day which revield her
tummy nd chest nd pushd up her bossomz
soo she would luk mre attractive
doz dat mean she was a sket to ?
most of the women in dis world wear myke up ( ur sisters kuzins mum family members etc ) to look mre attractive bu dat doznt mean their sluts ryt ??
wearin clothing lyk dat is just a feel gud factor
its lyk when i gyal would wear myke up or sumink
or a boy would put gel on his hair
or wear a pair of designer glasses
its too myke yu feel beta in dis world
think abou it fundermental :)
September 11th, 2008 at 10:55 am
‘Some of us, in fact most of us narrow minded simpletons will label the girl a ’slut’ or ‘tart’ simply because it is easier to discount someone than to give them credit for being confident in their appearance’
know who you are talking to before you label them.
September 11th, 2008 at 10:56 am
Just wanted to say.. some of the articles in the past few days/weeks have been very interesting to read…ive just not had the time to join the discussions :(…keep up the good work :)
September 11th, 2008 at 10:57 am
hey a woman can look attractive in anything if she carries it off well remember its not bout what you wear its how u wear it and carry it off wid elegence and ease. a woman wud only give dat impression of being a bit eazy if the squirt she is wearing can also substitute for a belt also lol
September 11th, 2008 at 10:57 am
confident in appearance?lol..all this talk about this n that?has anybody thought of it in terms of religion?r we all narrow minded in that sense?too western n lost our roots?u lot make me laugh..any way…
September 11th, 2008 at 10:57 am
yes, its true
September 11th, 2008 at 10:58 am
im not suprised by the example of the two girls you have given, im not saying this is an exception only prehaps that there could have been other contributing factors into the way the two different girls behaved in your company.
September 11th, 2008 at 10:58 am
Why do non-issues get such pondering amongst us? There’s a criteria for hijab, adhearing to it is personal preferance. Full stop really. The rest is individual personality. Clothes don’t define a person, but as humans, the first impression is very important naturaly.
September 11th, 2008 at 10:59 am
i know its not gonna be the same for every woman and even if i think a woman can wear a skirt without looking like a slut, most skirts that reveal more than usual kind of give out a message ‘i need to show you my legs to make me attractive’ because without a doubt it does trigger something for most men that turns his head.. call it lust, desire or just a desperate perv LOL
but my peronal opinion without even involving religion (because alot of people might not be religious at all who read this) - real confidence is not having to feed the insecurity of ‘he might not look at me’ by wearig revealing clothes which IS a common thing now.
peace!
September 12th, 2008 at 4:50 pm
I really don’t see the point of this article to be honest. The only comment I’d like to make is:
Justified or not, the stereotype about girls who dress provocatively being louche is a very well established and long held view. That isn’t about to change any time soon.
Women can choose to dress however the frick they want. This is also a very well establshed. Nothing written here is about to change that.
When a woman dresses provocatively (for whatever reasons) SHE IS FULLY AWARE OF THE STEREOTYPE HELD BY MANY PEOPLE ABOUT DRESSING SEXY = SLUTTY. Chances are, she doesn’t give a monkeys.
(And if she’s not aware of it, she’s not a slut, she’s a bloody ignoramus and should live in a box in Timbuktu)
I really don’t see what the issue is here. Irrespective of how you dress, if you carry yourself with grace and intelligence, it really doesn’t matter.
P.S: The simpleton guys who label stunning girls ’sluts’ do it because they have cultural hang-ups and/or inferiority complexes. When a girl is so gorgeous that you think you have a snowballs chance in hell with her, it’s easier to be derogatory.
September 13th, 2008 at 8:18 pm
Maybe Miss Jalebi should read this piece and feel better about being dumped by her perfect guy?
September 14th, 2008 at 5:16 pm
LOL. I guess little clothes end up being a big deal.
September 15th, 2008 at 9:26 pm
Hijab was prescribed as a means to an end and based on the local culture of our Prophet (p.b.u.h). Islam, having expanded worldwide has been adapted to the local cultures. So if the end is that women are to dress modestly when in front of men folk that are not their husbands, then they will be modest, according to their culture.
Hence, in the western world, you can spot women who cover their hair, whilst wearing knee length skirts too. Nothing sexy about that skirt, it’s practically a family heirloom and usually with those really offkey tan coloured stockings!
Going back to, it is then the bloke who (nousibilla!) would see it as he would, though really if he’s thinking like that, he should be lowering his gaze anyway before that second glance.
My point is, a skirt isn”t always to attract the opposite sex.
September 18th, 2008 at 12:30 pm
That may be so Ladybird, but the person looking at you won’t know why you’re wearing that skirt. Let’s be realistic here; we all know what the stereotypes are.
September 22nd, 2008 at 9:11 pm
“What I noticed is that the girls who dress even somewhat risqué are more likely to attract attention, whether they intend to or not”.
No sh*t sherlock.
I agree a totally totally worthless boringa dn uneducational read.
God.
September 22nd, 2008 at 9:44 pm
Good read, but how many men will actually take heed? none. stereotypes will just continue to exist.
I think the lady above ^^^^ is missing the point of the article, very valid points Pras.
September 23rd, 2008 at 1:05 pm
in my mind, a lady should dress like a lady, she can wear revealing clothes, as long as it is dignified and she can carry it off with class. There’s a fine line between weraing revealing attire and looking tacky or classy, but this also holds truth to conservative attire, you can make it classy or tacky.
As long as you maintain class and wear clothes which suit and fit you, I believe that it makes no difference, also not caring what people think tends to often draw positive attention.
It’s all about how you carry yourself, which is quite rightly pointed out in this article. Nice one Pras!
November 13th, 2008 at 1:36 am
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